‘Green’ is good but ‘The Reds’ are very essential

Pedestrian_LED_Traffic_Light_NYC Freeeeze! It’s red!

Ever since the inception of road commutation, the traffic laws are set up for maintaining order. Be it in a fresh blissful morning or after a weary evening at work or while on an exhilarating trip, we all go through the traffic signals on road. The red, yellow and green. These signals are the commanders of the vehicle movement facilitating harmony and safety.

We have to follow the rules on road. The instructions are clear. Wait and move. The roads always witness scenes of cars and trucks stalled one behind the other and moving in an order. Their brakes are on, sparkling ‘reds’ at the rear, cautioning us. And then glitters the ‘green’ for free movement!

What’s the big deal in it? There is, if you think of road accidents. People panicking on their vehicles and traffic creates frustrations and gets on nerves, doesn’t it?

On the contrary, Can we imagine road junctions without these traffic signals? Without the ‘red’ signal. Can it be anything but red? Green all time? I don’t think so. In that case, all I could imagine is fatal disasters.

We have a very similar set up in our daily lives. We all experience the traffic of opinions. People! People are full of opinions.

Somerset Maugham quotes as, “People ask you for criticism, but they only want praise.”

What do we infer?  Opinions ! We need opinions of people. Be it a concert, a football game, a presentation, we ask for evaluations and feedback. Actually we seek praise and appreciation. All we need is green-esque praises, but reds are inevitable. Aren’t they?

People around us are going to review and assess our actions ! Some express verbally, some show signs by actions, some share it publicly, some spread across people and some who just think. But everyone has opinions! I’m taking a metaphorical comparison of these opinions to the traffic signal.

There are three kinds (or rather colors) of opinions: I have given colors for the opinions of people.

  • Green: Green opinions are those that uplift us with its positivism. These are the things that we desire to hear from people. Appraises! Aren’t we envious to read an appreciation mail at work, or a reward or a positive feedback? One sentence could make a difference, “You did great” and these words reverberate and strike the happy cord and tug our heart for smiles. These are green !
  • Amber: Yellows are words that create a balance. They show signs of criticism but it’s a tricky maneuver. It’s a blend of anode-and-cathode of views. It doesn’t really create an impact ! Simply neutral.
  • The Reds: Reds are critics. Reds ask us to stop and requires change. They are words seeking improvement, words that disrupt the pace of our performance. Complications !

I always felt difficulties in digesting any critical opinion. Our Parents are best critics. They know us better than we do, don’t they? Their critical voices mostly hit us hard, crimson-red. But if we ponder, those are for the betterment. The red-words are to be listened carefully.

Having said that, how do we tackle critics? Here is what I could think of critical reactions.

  1. Listen: Open up, embrace and listen to the improvements or criticisms and note down the views of the critic. It’s important to record the words as it is said.
  2. Ponder: Ask these questions: Is it true? Does it make sense? Can it be considered to work on? Will it make any better? If yes, move on to act. Ignore if not.
  3. React: Act and prove it wrong.

I have Malcolm’s quote supporting my perception.

“If you have no critics you’ll likely have no success.” – Malcolm X

I strongly believe that “praises may be fake, but the critics will always have some portion of truth to it“.

In case of Criticism: Take it, ponder and prove them wrong, bang on! That’s how we succeed.

P.S.Your opinions on this article are welcome.

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The ‘B’ word

I have always felt sick of this word, whenever people utter.

It has become more of self bragging to me. The tone of their voice adding fuel to my disgust.

When situations forced me to use the word, I always tried to put it in other terms. But, day-by-day people getting worsted into the technological mesh, the usage had been predominant but to me, its a show-off or exaggeration. Some people used it all times irrespective of the intensity of their work.

Though sometimes it made real sense with people completely occupied with work, nevertheless its a forbidden word in my dictionary.

One can never be completely occupied unless he/she really is. A glass half filled with waters is always considered full. Because, technically its half filled with water, and air fills the other half.

If am at work, having time to relax and take a break, talk to people, then I’m not completely occupied. I have a prioritized virtual stack in mind with a header “to-do”. Agree that? Yes, we do things on priority. We do things we like, things that we take time to do, things that we do for our dear ones. We put in order of importance, don’t we?

Even the ‘b-word-est’ of people don’t use the b-word very often. I have many lively examples. People who are down-to-earth they use it differently. To me it has become offensive. I’m not sure whether this opinion imprinted in mind because of some.

If only people knew the exact meaning of the word, the usage of this word would drop off by a large number.

Never use the ‘B’ word unless you really are, and knowing the meaning of the word goes without the need to mention.

Not many would agree with me. What would you use as an alternative to the ‘B’ word?

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People

Some are born at this moment, some breathed their last. 

Some go to sleep. Some sleep forever.

Some accomplish, while some are getting up from their last failure.

Some are kind, some are rude. 

Some are teachers.

Some are born talents, some strive hard.

Some are healthy, some are fighting for their life.

Some have nice smile. Some got blue eyes. Some got ears for music.

Some are singers. Some know dancing. Some could write. Some are artists.

Some could fly. Some do sail. Some are toddlers.

Some rule. Some are shackled.

Some enjoy rain. Some live. Some use smartphones.

Some dine with families. Some just eat.

Some care. Some are mothers and grandmothers.

Some love.

Some believe in God. Some are ignorant.